All of this is allowed to happen when the wife has no excuse for being with him. And if she consistently persists in doing so then she is going to be punished as his wife and eventually divorced.
Why keep a woman if she has no desire in being with you when you ask her to make love? And she keeps denying her husband that right. I believe it's a fair punishment. It would be arrogant of a wife to keep denying her husband this right. . . .
If you truly loved your husband, why would you say no for no reason if he wants to make love with you?
It's understandable if you are sick, having your monthly courses, tired, sleepy, hungry..whatever. But the hadiths tell us about women who are arrogant or extremely disobedient and have no good reason.
Call me whatever you can think of, but I strongly believe that this is fair punishment.
Notice that Kim contradicts both Islam and her own scholars. Islam allows a woman to avoid sex if she is ill or menstruating. But Kim adds "tired, sleepy, hungry, whatever." In other words, Kim thinks a Muslim woman may refuse sex for all kinds of reasons, and she has therefore condemned her prophet, her religious texts, and her scholars, for they do not accept Kim's excuses as justifiable reasons for withholding sex.
Nevertheless, Kim agrees that a man may beat his wife, and even starve her, if she doesn't submit to his demands for sex. Kim says that sex is the man's "right," and that she has no "right" to refuse him sex.
But let's think about this. According to Kim and her scholars, marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman, whereby the man agrees to provide food to the woman, and the woman agrees to provide sex to the man. If the woman doesn't keep her end of the agreement, the man is no longer obligated to keep his end of the agreement. Hence, if she denies him sex, he can deny her food.
But what do we call it when a woman trades sex for something she wants or needs (e.g. money, food, shelter, etc.)? We call it "prostitution." According to Kim, Muslim women are long-term prostitutes who trade sex for food. When the women fail to honor the agreement, the contract is broken.
Shouldn't Muslims like Kim find it amazing that non-Muslims have a higher view of women and marriage than Muslims do? We even have more respect for Muslim women than the Qur'an does. We believe that the marriage relationship should be based on more than a "sex for food" bargain, and that men should have more respect for their wives than beating and starving them would suggest.